Loisanne's Blog

The meandering path of my life


Yay! I finally got my passport. It’s about time. All in one day…I got my birth certificate, divorce paperwork (needed it for passport) and my paperwork filled out for my passport.  I should be good to go (anywhere in the world I want) in 4 to 6 weeks! Isn’t that exciting? I think so.

Not sure if I mentioned it in here before, but I’m planning a trip to England in November. Yes, my friend Phil is going to be my tour guide. I hope so anyway. It’s a long time between now and then and who knows what could happen. Life is full of surprises. No matter what happens though, I’m taking my trip. With or without Phil. It would be better with him, though. 

And then what? I’ll have a passport and the whole world will be open to me. Money might be a hindrance…LOL…but I could learn to save. Then think of the places I could go. If I could take just one good trip a year, think of all the places I could see in 10 years? Maybe I’ll find somewhere else that I want to live. That would be awesome. Not that the U.S. is bad…it’s pretty darn awesome…but I don’t really feel like I fit in with the people here. Everything seems to revolve around religion. Everywhere I look, everyone I talk to, everything seems to have something to do with religion. Sorry, but I really don’t care for that.

I know, what makes me think somewhere else is going to be different? I don’t know, but I’d sure like to find out. Better to at least try, don’t you think?

Anyway, today has been an exciting day for me. When I actually get my passport in my sweaty little hands, that’s when I’ll REALLY get excited. Party time! Not that I’ll go out and use it right away…LOL. Hell, I live a long way from another country. Canada is a 2 day drive and Mexico, while being a little bit closer, isn’t exactly my cup of tea. Scares me, truth be told. So, I guess I’ll just have to wait till November.

Patience isn’t really one of my virtues…LOL.

Ciao for now


March 30, 2011 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment


Yeah, this is yet another post about Phil…LOL.

Phil got a job. I knew it would happen sooner or later. He’s working for a company that makes train wheels. Good job. He started Monday. And I miss him!

First, you have to realize, when we got back in touch mid-December, his previous job’s contract had ended and it seemed like every time I got online, he was here. I spent nearly every evening sitting here talking to him, several hours at a time. Once we even chatted for 11 hours! Now nothing. Ok, not actually nothing. I got to chat to him for a little bit Monday evening and I’ve got a couple (short) emails off him. I’m having some trouble getting used to this though.

I sound selfish and greedy, don’t I? It’s ok, you can say it…LOL. I look at the above paragraph and I’m thinking it too. I want to say “Geez, what a whiney, needy, selfish bitch you are. Give the man some space. He’s trying to get some sort of routine going.”

Yesterday I was feeling abandoned. Today is a bit better for me. Today I am off work and I can see lots of possibilities for me without Phil being in here waiting for me. Things I put aside because there wasn’t time to do them and talk to Phil too. I have a lot of catching up to do.

Today I can see how it wasn’t good for me to be so obsessed with Phil. Today I can see how it’s a good thing he’s gone back to work and how it’s freed me to have “my own life” again. Of course, I could see those things before, I just refused to do anything about it…LOL. I told myself  “gotta enjoy every moment with him while I can, because this won’t last forever”. It was true. The moment has passed. I have some awesome memories from it too. And despite what I said about it not being good to be so obsessed, I wouldn’t change a thing. Which begs the question, “Would I do that again, should the same situation arise?”

Probably so.

LOL…I know what you’re thinking. I haven’t learned a thing. Oh contraire, my good friend. I just know myself. I know that if I still find Phil as interesting and captivating as I do now, I won’t be able to help myself. Things change though. Interest waxes and wanes. I’ve had several online friends that have come and gone. A few long term ones remain. None of them compare to Phil though. So I have hopes that he’ll be around a very long time.

I really miss him.

Today is ok though. The pains of withdrawal are tolerable today.

I’ll worry about tomorrow….tomorrow.

Ciao for now

March 24, 2011 Posted by | Friends, Life, Phil | , , | Leave a comment


That’s because I  couldn’t find an appropriate word for the title of this post.

As you may have guessed, this probably isn’t going to be a “nice” post. Sorry people, even an optimist like me goes on a rampage once in a while.

What is amiss, you ask?

Well, things aren’t exactly going my way at the moment. Plus, I may be having some hormonal imbalance thing going on. Not good. Normally, my scales of  “happy” and “bitchy” have a lot of slack in them…meaning, it takes a lot of crap heaped up on the “bitchy” side to tip it past the point of no return. My hormones  seem to change the specs on my scales though and there’s not much tolerance for crap before I go off the deep end.

No, I don’t scream and yell and throw a fit, but the rage inside me is rather frightening. It passes, I know it will. I tell myself it will. I just have to think of something else and get through the “moment”. Not an easy thing to do sometimes though. Especially at work.

I know everyone thinks they are a good worker and that they do more than their fair share and that they are taken advantage of, so I guess in that respect, I’m no different than anyone else. The difference is…I’m being truthful…LOL. No, I’m not the best cake decorator in the world. No, I”m sure I’m not the fastest. But I’m better and faster than the other decorators I work with, than probably most of the decorators employed by the company I work for. I’m not bragging, I’m just confident. The ladies I work with will tell you the same thing.

My problem is this: my boss takes advantage of me and takes me for granted. I know, that’s a boss for you. Pisses me off though. Especially lately. Point in case: I was off  Wednesday and Thursday. There was a wedding cake order to be done on Thursday. Tamra can’t do wedding cakes. Christina can (although she will make you wonder if she’s going to have a nervous breakdown in the process) but she was working at another store. I said I would come in(an 18 mile trip, one way) and do the cake. I did. Took me less than two hours from start to finish.  Overtime. Or so I thought. Donna came to me a couple of days ago and asked me to try and take off the time. I said “Really? You’re gonna make me take that off?” She backed down and said, “No, since you made the trip in, you can keep it.” The next day, Dale (store manager) came and told Donna that I was going to have overtime and Donna promptly called over to me “Lois, you’ve got overtime to take off”. WHAT THE FUCK? What happened to “Since you made the trip in, you can keep it”? I would have thought she would have at least told Dale the situation and had my back, even if Dale wouldn’t have ok’d it.

Am I wrong for being pissed? I think not. Needless to say, I won’t be helping them out again. They can go fuck themselves for all I care.

So, that’s all it took for my thoughts to start spiralling downward and every memory of every bad situation I’ve ever had at work came flooding back…the days I requested and didn’t get….the year I’ve worked without a sunday off…all the times I’ve got blamed for shit going wrong that someone else did…all the responsibilities that keep getting shifted onto my shoulders and then the griping when my other duties don’t get done….etc….etc.

It was NOT good. It doesn’t help that I’m having issues at home as well…wages garnished, possible forclosure on my house, the threat of having to move in with my Mom looming in my future. Not that those would be totally terrible things. Ok, living with my Mom would be…LOL…but I’d survive.

The point is, it probably wouldn’t take too much for me to give my notice at work and say “fuck it”. Throw in the towel. I’m already prepared to lose my home. Not the worst thing that could happen. Plenty of other people have had it happen and lived through it. I would like to be able to sell it…but if it gets taken, it won’t be the end of the world. To tell the truth, I have a feeling that it will be like a weight lifted off me. I’ll be free of it. Free of the responsibility of it all. And while I may have to live with my Mom for a while, I’ll eventually get my own apartment and things will be back to normal.

There’s really only one thing that keeps me from throwing in the towel. Phil. I have a trip to England planned in November, and if I were to quit and start a new job, they might not let me have the time off. And I NEED that time off. Come hell or high water, I’m taking my trip. If I have to sell my soul (not that it would be worth much…LOL) I’d do it. I’ve wanted to see England most of my life and now that I have the chance to do it…and with a wonderful sweet man as my guide…nothing is going to stop that. Not even me…LOL.

So, I guess I’ll bite my tongue and keep my temper under control and try to think pleasant thoughts. At least until November.

Wish me luck.

Ciao for now

March 23, 2011 Posted by | Life, Work | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

I like SKYPE

What a wonderful evening last night!

Yeah, you guessed it, it involves Phil…LOL.  Last night, we skyped for a few hours. His friend Mike was over and I got to see both of them drunk…LOL. Mike was absolutely plastered and couldn’t stop talking…saying “fuck” every other word. Cracked me up. He seems like a nice guy…and totally loves Phil. It was great to see such a wonderful friendship in action.

I got to see Phil’s youngest daughter, Emily and her best friend, Chloe. Such cute girls. Wish I could have seen Alice too, but she wasn’t there. Maybe another time.

Life is absolutely amazing some times. A week ago, I was devastated (my own fault) and now I’m happy as a lark. Go figure. Life is full of surprises. Thank goodness.

Ciao for now.

March 13, 2011 Posted by | Friends, Life | Leave a comment


I want a new tattoo.

I have a couple already, but I want another one. Actually, I’d like to have lots more…but one at a time. I’m having trouble finding a design that “speaks” to me though. I’ve been searching through designs today and while severl ideas look interesting, I haven’t found one that incorporates all the stuff I want into one design. I may have to just go in a shop and tell them what I’m looking for and see what they can come up with.

Just in case someone who is a tattoo artist reads this….I’ll tell you a little about what I’m looking for: I would like the text TITUS LUXOR in a cool font. I’ve thought about putting it on a banner. I saw some online..but most of them were wrapped around a heart. I don’t want that. I would like to include music notes…maybe even the lines. It has to include something about music though. TITUS LUXOR is an alter ego. A musician. My best friend. So it would be cool to include something about friendship too. I don’t know what that would be though. I happen to be fascinated with eyes….so I thought about two eyes, one top left-ish (grey) and the other bottom right-ish (blue), looking at each other with the musical banner between them with the ends possibly wrapped around them somehow, with TITUS LUXOR written on the music banner.

You know, I really like that idea. I think I’ll take that idea to the tattoo parlor and see what they can come up with.

Now…where to put it? LOL.

Ciao for now.

March 10, 2011 Posted by | Life | | Leave a comment


Whew! The last few days have been such an emotional rollercoaster. Luckily, I’ve received some information this evening that has calmed me down a bit.

As you might have guessed, if you’ve read any of my recent posts, it involves Phil. To make a long story short, I was compelled to tell him something I didn’t want to tell him and he didn’t like hearing. Things took a turn for the worse. I thought I was going to lose my best friend. Hurt like hell.

Turns out, I still have my friend. Things will no longer be taking the romantic turn they were, but we’ll still talk. I’m very cool with that. That’s all I ever expected to begin with. I never expected anything more, but it was a nice feeling while it lasted. I don’t need the romance though. I can live without it. But one needs good friends. At least one. And if you can find that one that you can “connect” with, learn from, be inspired by…then you really don’t want to lose that. I know I didn’t.

And now it looks like I won’t have to. I am so thankful. Things might not be like they were before…but who’s to say they won’t be even better without all the romantic/sexual/feeling stuff getting in the way? Might make both of us freer to be our “true” selves, without trying to be on our best behaviour or put on our best face. I’m kind of excited to see what happens.

Sure beats the prospects I was facing earlier.

I’m happy.

Ciao for now.

March 5, 2011 Posted by | Friends, Life | , | Leave a comment